A pretty, thin blonde woman who is also a properly domestic heterosexual mother makes her living telling other white women to like ourselves more and prioritize our own needs.

I actually learned something from her books, not gonna lie. I paid attention to my own habits and took basic action on my own behalf. I smiled more. That was good.

But it turns out the basic problems of my life were rather more complicated than that. Problems like naïveté. Problems like misdirected rage.

Anti racist work on myself and in the world helped. And was necessary to change.