Actually, studies show that even when men work less than women do, the amount of chores they do doesn't change. In fact, it decreases further.

According to recent studies, women do 1.5 hours of housework more PER DAY than men do.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/12/us/the-household-work-men-and-women-do-and-why.html

So no. This isn't "gendered griping." This is statistically demonstrable inequity.

Your description of your former partner as a "freeloader" and your choice to take to Medium to complain about your current partner say a lot about you, and your current relationship skills.

You chose these partners.

You are choosing to remain in your current relationship.

If you want a different dynamic, it's your job to make it happen.

How about instead of treating yourself like a victim with no control over what happens in your home, you shift your own perspective and create effective boundaries with the people you've chosen to spend your life with?