Again. My migraines and asthma both put me in the hospital. So this is not about my comfort, it’s about my safety.
Talking to your neighbors first is reasonable if you have that kind of relationship. I’m personally not going to walk my single disabled woman self to a stranger’s party and try to have a conversation about their music.
Each of the behaviors you describe indicate a lack of concern for the community. These are selfish actions that are obviously, predictably harmful.
Keeping a dog who is an active danger is also a predictably harmful situation. Maybe that wasn’t your friend’s situation, but I wouldn’t want to discourage parents scared for their kids’ safety from calling the police on a dangerous animal for fear of the safety of the dog.
I say this as someone who has happily owned large dogs all my life. I’ve also been attacked by someone else’s crazy dog, which she knew full well was crazy and dangerous but kept anyway. I saw that dog attack a child. So yes, I called the police, and I sincerely hope that dog is dead. Sometimes that is the appropriate response.
You seem to be operating from the idea that my safety, which is definitely compromised in these situations in which people have chosen consciously to do dangerous things, is less important than the tiny possibility the police might harm them.
That’s the kind of thinking that makes marginalized women not report rapes or domestic violence for fear of harm done to the abuser. Who suffers? The victim.
Fix the police, sure. But don’t expect me to martyr myself for someone who couldn’t care less about me.