Definitely resonate with this.
Narcs I’ve inadvertently become involved with have usually spiraled into vengeful resentment towards me while refusing to talk to me, insisting I’m out of control, monstrous, aggressive, violent, in response to any attempt I make to engage with them to try to ease the situation. Meanwhile they’re actively doing harm to me, behaving in passive aggressive ways, often talking shit about me to others and undermining me in the community, and generally trying to take all my power away.
While insisting I’m the one hurting them.