"Every person who ever tried to love me is a victim?" ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Beyond the fact that people with mental illness are far more likely to experience additional trauma in relationships than to cause it, particularly when that illness is rooted in trauma, as BPD is...beyond the fact that you don't know me at all...beyond the fact that being disappointed in romantic relationships is not even vaguely comparable to living through child abuse. This response makes it clear that you don't deserve to have people in your life who have been through actual difficulties. We're not just going to hide out of sight until we're magically 'cured' of living through traumatic childhoods. It's YOUR responsibility to build the society you want to live in. That includes preventing childhood trauma--so that you don't have to live with its results.