First of all, this article is bomb.

Second, women are not obligated to spend our precious time and energy trying to figure out what a man’s motivation is or why he decided to say or do something unacceptable. It is our job to determine whether we feel safe, and if so, to express ourselves directly to that man and let him know how we feel about the issue.

Men struggle with compliments because men are invested in themselves, not in the comfort or wellbeing of women.