First of all, totally hear you. Totally.

Second, my experience operating within my own Jewish community is that when I approach a guy, he feels emasculated. Maybe that feeling doesn't come immediately, but eventually, it does.

That's true even if he is interested in me. Like, it's true even if he already hit on me earlier that day, or did something romantic, or whatever.

He just figures, there's an order to these things, and I just messed it all up.

Maybe he doesn't push me away, but he doesn't necessarily pull me close either. He basically just treats me like I'm an alien until I go away again.

Like, his discomfort with the gender roles reversal overcomes whatever pleasure he feels.

Truth? This says a lot about dude spinelessness.

Also truth? These are the guys who think taking their shot and sitting in a woman's vicinity staring at her real hard, are the same thing. They're not.

Like, a lot of times I'm just trying to help these guys out because they're just so bad at romance.

They don't appreciate me helping them out. They don't appreciate being reminded how bad at it they actually are.

They don't want help. They want courage.

They need to find it for themselves.