Guys really do seem trained to pant over women who always seem just out of reach. To associate our value with how much their friends or colleagues want to fuck us, or claim to.
Doubly true in my Uber conservative ethnic community. If you hook up, you’re not wife material. If you’re not blonde and thin and in your 20s with an Ivy League degree, you’re not cute enough. If you flirt with more than one man, you’re available to be hit on by any guy who fancies a go and you shouldn’t get upset.
There’s no winning.
Not if you were born into my body.