Hi Gareth,

Honest question: would you date a woman who weighs 250 pounds or more?

Would you date a woman who is disabled, or chronically ill? Who uses a cane or a walker?

Would you date a woman who is unemployed?

My guess is no.

When men like you post diatribes like this, you're inevitably talking about the tiny percentage of women you actually find attractive.

You are talking about thin, able-bodied, young white women.

These women invest a lot of time and energy into their appearance. That is part of what attracts you.

When it turns out they, too, are attracted to partners who display these same traits, you are surprised. Why?

These women have been telling you who they are the entire time. They are attracted to what they value themselves.

If you look for people who share your values, you will find people to date.

If you look for the "hottest" woman who will give you the time of day, you will be disappointed.