Honestly, I feel like my biggest problem is that I don't think most of the men I encounter really want things to change. The men I meet either DO want to return to a past of male dominance, or they have no idea what they actually want and expect women to do 75% of the relationship work. Healthy masculinity is really attractive. Healthy PEOPLE are really attractive. But people desperate to be in relationships, who don't really understand how relationships work, are not.