I cannot tell you how much I agree with this.
In the Jewish community, white/passing women will gang up to cry victim and insist I’m committing unforgivable acts of villainy by existing and not caretaking their emotions at cost to my boundaries.
White men usually agree with them.
None of them are interested in challenging their white supremacist beliefs or listening to me.
The truth of my intentions don’t matter, as you described.
Their assumptions are more real to them than actual reality.