I definitely agree with you that the LAST thing that an immature half-grown child, whatever their gender, needs is to be coddled.

We need to learn to have compassion for OURSELVES. To hold ourselves when we cry. To lick our own wounds. To accept that mummy is not coming to take care of us, daddy is not coming to save us, but we are still obligated to live the wisest and kindest lives possible.

Women have hoped for millennia that providing young men with enough love and support would make them treat us well. This has not worked as a strategy. We have simply fed the self-pity and selfishness that have caused men to avoid certain realities of being grown up.

We need to set boundaries and require MORE from men, not less.