I don’t think there’s anything wrong with using therapy language IF someone is using it to describe themselves and IF the other party is genuinely interested. But so often, therapizing others, especially exes, is used as an excuse not to change or to act. Women, I say this as one myself, are particularly prone to this. I shudder to think how much time I’ve spent obsessing over what others did right or wrong in relationships with me. Who cares? Did any of that make me a better partner or a more interesting person?