I really appreciated reading this. I realized that my response to people with anger issues who lash out at me or get passive aggressive in ways that scare me is to “fawn” and basically roll over belly up, abandoning my own anger.
That goes about how you might expect!
I lose respect for myself and they see me as passive and uninteresting.
But confronting someone who is being inappropriate with their anger scares me.
It also feels like emotional labor that is simply not my job.