I think a lot of people struggle to distinguish between their emotions and the other person’s. I just had a looooong conversation with a friend of mine who I met because he hit on me. Twice. I helped him set his boundaries while he explained I had violated his boundaries that he hadn’t mentioned until right then and then he snuck glances at my chest and I am just so over guys who don’t get boundaries being mad at me because they like me and I don’t like them back and making this my problem. Women get shamed and punished for men’s misbehavior every day.