I think that men's sexuality is very often confused with men's sexual behavior, though. In this example, for example, this guy was dancing in the same gyrating way everyone else was doing, had a bodily reaction he couldn't control, and was humiliated for it. Many boys' welcome to adolescent sexuality is being made fun of for erections or wet dreams. That creates an environment in which men respond to sexuality with defensiveness and embedded experiences of cruelty.

Discuss men who misuse their own sexuality or abuse women and girls, sure. But let's not conflate boys and men who have sexual reactions, with boys and men who react to their sexuality by harming women.

We're back to "sexual violence is not sex, it's abuse, and it's about power and control, not sexuality run amok." Right?