I think there’s always an issue with acting like any of these issues are objectively recognizable to the average person. I’ve known people who were narcissists and emotionally abusive who would rather chew off their own finger than admit they have a problem. And I’ve been called mentally ill over my trauma and neurological disability more times than I can count. We all need to quit diagnosing the people around us with commitment issues or psychological problems or failures. Choosing to reject a partner is one thing. Insisting that you alone know the depths of their pathology is just self-aggrandizing b.s.