I think what men don't get is that it doesn't really matter who is doing that. The guy could be otherwise sexy and adorable, but if he sexualizes us and pursues us like he's hunting down prey, it's still freaking terrifying. It does not feel any better to be treated like an object by someone sexy than someone who is not attractive. Treating us this way says the guy does not understand the difference between sex and rape. Who wants to enter a sexual situation with someone with those issues?