It really hurt me for a long time. He insisted that me asking to hook up was a major violation of his boundaries and was uncomfortable and gross. I really absorbed the idea that my sexuality was offensive.

But I think some guys just really want to be in control of the situation. Like he didn’t want me to hit on him, because he wanted the ego boost of seducing me and taking something from me.

I was so scared of him and I never knew why. But that’s why. That shit is scary.