It’s one thing to suggest this as a simple first date. It’s another to put no effort in, or consistently avoid real commitment. I had a date refuse to pick me up two blocks away from the restaurant and drive me, when it was raining. He felt that was more commitment than he wanted to make, and what if I was crazy? I canceled the date immediately. A man who doesn’t understand that the linkelihood of encountering a dangerous woman on Tinder vs a dangerous man is very small.