My dude. As a disabled person? Claiming that any time someone says "I can't" is about 'being a victim' is SO DANGEROUS.
Literally there are things I cannot do. If I do them, I will die or end up in the hospital. That is not "victim mentality" speaking, it is REALITY.
Similarly, the world creates limitations for how people can interact with it. I have real fears about driving cross country by myself, for example, because I am a woman and because I have been sexually harassed in public BY MEN since I was 9 years old. My life has limitations because of other people's behavior, not my own 'thoughts.' Guess in your opinion I'm supposed to mentally control other people, but barring that sci-fi fiction, I'm going to make reasonable decisions for my life that protect me from people who would harm me.