My now former housemate. I walked on eggshells for months because I used to hear him scream at his girlfriend and humiliate her to blow off steam. Sure enough, I stood up to him and he turned on me. I left.

Unlike her, I had the resources to leave.

He now insists very loudly that I am “playing the victim.” Men who say such things are perpetrators. That’s the key phrase. It’s how you know.