Okay, but-where does this leave disabled people like me? Fat people like me? Traumatized women like me?

How exactly am I supposed to wash myself clean of the horrible things that have happened to me, in hopes that some guy might find me good enough to date?

If I wait until I’ve healed before I date, I will be waiting forever.

I’ve been waiting forever to feel good enough or healed enough to date. Meanwhile I watch abusers and people with major issues get married and have babies.

Good enough is not the same as being someone who has never been a woman on this planet. We’re all guarded and wounded.

Guys can learn to deal. Most of them already have.