Thank you so, so much for reading! I wish you’d read some of my other articles for men and share them. I really, really want men to feel more comfortable with their bodies. There’s no way that can happen unless men absolutely know and believe and insist that penis size has absolutely nothing to do with how much their partner does or does not enjoy sex!!
Women often struggle to enjoy sex because of our own insecurities, or because of past experiences of trauma. The more we insist that our partners’ “performance” is the cause of these problems, the more we all avoid talking about gender violence.. and instead, we collectively project that violence onto the bodies of men who do make themselves vulnerable and seek genuine sexual connection.
Women absolutely have different physical needs and different sexual needs. So do men. It would be great to just talk about that as an open, clear scientific fact.
-I do think women are obsessive about comparing our body size to each other and scared our lovers will judge us for any indications of fatness, like men are scared of being judged for being small.
I also think most women can’t really change our basic body types, and a lot of us like me have disabilities or diseases that are messing with our bodies.
The bottom line though is respect. Respect for human diversity! Respect for everyone’s right to feel safe emotionally and physically during sex.
Respect for the fact that love and judging someone’s body don’t coexist.