Thank you very much for this truly lovely note.

What a gift.

I can tell by your words that you are a generous, giving man by nature, with a free connection to your own body and your own sensitivity to pleasure.

I often get the sense in my interactions with men that they view women as prey. To them, seduction is a hunt, with sex being the equivalent to the moment the lion sinks his teeth into the gazelle's neck.

That's not a very appealing situation to walk into, as a woman!

It also leaves me feeling as though when a man goes down on me, he is just checking off a box on his list, trying to get through it to get to the part he actually likes.

When I have met men who enjoy going down on me, I mean, those are men I keep in my life for years, even if it's just as a friend.

Every woman wants to feel like she's special and her body is beautiful. It just seems like that's such an easy gift to give someone. Yet for too many men, sex is not about giving, it's about taking.

Women are made to feel insecure and unfeminine if we don't accept this as our lot in life and learn to (pretend to) like it.

I don't wanna do that anymore!!!