That's really true. There are a lot of people who insist that men chasing women is how it's supposed to be. Then when it doesn't work out, you have tons more advice telling you that you're doing it wrong..

Okay, how about this. Just trust yourself.

Forget all the advice. Think about what you actually want, and who you want it from.

Feel what it actually feels like to be near this woman. Instead of seeing her as The Girl, see her as a human being. How would you approach a man you wanted to be friends with? Approach her like that.

I'm serious.

Then, if you feel like flirting, like if it actually feels good, flirt a bit.

But start by just working on your bond with her.

Treat her like a friend..but like a really sensitive friend. Like a friend who has been bullied and harassed and isn't sure they can trust you.

Talk to her like that.

I can't promise she'll respond the way you want. But you'll be doing the very best you can.

And you won't walk away feeling like you sacrificed some sense of self-respect over it.

Make sense?