Therapy helped me ish. But therapy taught me that I was not to blame at all and that was not helpful either. Because I did keep falling for it. For the same thing. So there was something I was doing.
Even if it was a “no” I was not saying but needed to learn to say.
I think there’s a difference between therapy vs feminist coaching and what we should be able to get from women in our lives and ideally from our mothers.
But in real life, so many of us are stuck with what we get.