This has certainly been my experience.
I also have unfortunately even witnessed this same perspective in myself before I began to heal my own hurts around being bullied for my disabilities and my autism and my trauma.
You think if you’re perfect enough you will be safe. Even if perfect includes hurting other people, you do it, because safety is a basic human need. And your shame is so deep that belonging feels impossible.
Healing is available but not everyone knows that or even wants it.